True love waits.
Those words will forever be tied to sex in our minds, but I wish they weren’t. I wish we realized the power in those three words; power to transform our Christian lives.
We’ve made waiting all about singleness and sex. Waiting has become a problem to be fixed rather than a fixture of human existence. And because it’s a “problem” we spend our seasons of waiting just trying to get to the end, to speed up the process, to get on to what really matters.
Eventually, we get to the end. We get married. We get the job. We find the calling. And to our shock and surprise, we have to wait there, too. But we don’t know how to wait because we never disciplined ourselves to do so.
“…But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength.” (Is. 40:31)
Those words are forever scribbled in Bible journals and index cards, but do we know what they mean? Do we believe them?
They that wait will have their strength renewed.
It is in waiting that we become strong. We long for the mountaintop moments, the thrill of answered prayer, that sense that God is working in tangible ways; but this longing, unchecked, defeats the purpose of the wait. Waiting isn’t a necessary evil; it’s part of God’s long-term purpose. This entire earthly existence is a waiting period; waiting for the Perfect to come, when we will “no longer see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face.” (1 Cor. 13:12)
You will always be waiting.
You will wait to hear back from your college applications.
You will wait to meet your spouse.
You will wait for the positive pregnancy test.
You will wait for the contractions to start.
You will wait for your husband to find a new job.
You will wait to meet a new best friend.
You will wait for your family to know Christ.
You will wait in line, on your computer, in traffic, and at church.
You will always be waiting for something.
The question you should be asking is not “How soon will this be over?” but “Am I waiting well?”
Marriage won’t cure your loneliness or your lust problem. A new job or city won’t make you content. It’s not about the next big thing, but about putting down roots in the thing right in front of you, regardless of the risk. Our tendency is to withhold our roots; to protect ourselves from the pain of transplantation. But it is only by putting down roots that connect, grow, and find fulfillment in the season of today – the only calling we can be sure God has for us.
True love waits, friends. True love for God waits on His will, His timing, and His goodness. True love waits and is strengthened by the waiting – not by rushing to the end, getting to the “point”.
The point is in the waiting: Who you become by trusting God.
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