The words “spiritual leader” are synonymous with Christian dating culture. If you’re a single Christian woman, you’ve been taught, told, and everything short of commanded to only date men who are spiritual leaders. We talk about this as if the term is actually written in Scripture (it isn’t, though it’s insinuated: Eph. 5:22-23, 1 Cor. 11). The result? A confusing, limiting conversation that is straying further and further from the biblical model of church and family structure.
I see three significant problems with how we’re discussing spiritual leadership:
We discuss it only in the context of a husband’s responsibility (or future husband’s, if you’re dating).
We ignore the fact that ALL Christians are called to be spiritual leaders.
We promote a model of spiritual leadership that is “one size fits all”, particularly for men.